It’s hard getting over a relationship, especially if you have promised to be with each forever, but divorce can sometimes be a blessing. It’s okay to cry for a few days, but you have put yourself back together and move. Divorce is not the end of your life, it’s just the end of a relationship. Although, that make seem so casual, but you may have other things that you need to focus on, rather than you marriage. If you have children, this would be a great time to start focusing on them more.
Go to the movies, go to the mall, just do things with your children so that you can focus on something worth your time. Thousands of people have gone through divorce, so you’re not the only one. Why should you cry anyway? It’s not your fault that it didn’t work, you two probably were just at two different places in life. It’s not because of you personally. There are so many things that you need to focus on that you may become overwhelmed, but that’s okay, it’s a natural feeling. Instead of going in a depression, you need to focus on what’s going on. You need to begin the process.
The first process to separating may be therapy. You may want to go alone or you can go with your mate. Even though it may seem too late for therapy, it will help you two be great parents. If you can get over all the issues and all the angry and you can valid each other’s feelings, than you can have a great relationship after the marriage. You may want to go alone at first. This way you can get all of your feelings out and you can release some of the anger and some of the hurt. Therapy is a great starting place because you can find yourself again and you can identify things that will help you move on.
There are a lot of questions that you may feel unanswered. Know that, this was an act of fate. It could be the result of his actions, your actions, or both. However, regardless you cannot think of yourself as the problem. Fate was the problem. There are certain aspects of the universe that pulls people together and then apart, much like a magnet.
If you think about it in words of fate, you will find strength, and you will also find the courage to move on. This is just a chapter in the many books of your life. Don’t worry because there will be love after divorce and there will be other exciting chapters of your life still to be read, so it’s okay to let go. You never what you may find after this whole thing blows over.
It may take weeks or months to come to the fact, but you take as much time as you need. To end the tears, to end the pain, you need to find other things that make you happy and just do it. If you find comfort in friends, be with them as much as possible. If you have children, it goes the same. If you would really like to stop the crying, you will get out of bed, brush your teeth, get dressed up, and go to dinner, with friends, or family, or even by yourself. Getting up and looking like a hundred bucks will begin the process of letting go.
Whenever you feel lonely or blue, reach out to someone that you love and support you and talk. Talking helps everything. Share your feelings, and whatever you do, do not isolate yourself. You should be with people who love you during this time of need.